“I have yet to discover a real method to writing songs. I can’t say that I have an approach, other than…I wait until it comes to me. It usually starts as a melody, like a vocal melody. Maybe a couple lines of lyrics. From there, once I have the melody in my mind I can sing it to myself wherever I am. A lot of times people think I’m kind of day dreaming and a lot of times I’m just thinking about whatever song I’m working on.”—Conor Oberst (via onlyhappyinthesunladylove)
“When I want to know what misogyny is, I don’t ask a man. When I want to know what racism is, I don’t ask a white person. When I want to know what homophobia is, I don’t ask a heterosexual. When I want to know what transphobia is, I don’t ask a cisgender person. When I want to know what ableism is, I don’t ask an able-bodied person. The contours and definitions of oppression are best articulated by the oppressed.”—Son of Baldwin
Remember all those times you laid in bed and cried over one-week relationships? And how I would hold you and console you and make you breakfast and spend all my money trying to appease you? Remember when you were in a relationship, but you got mad when I went to your ex’s wedding, because she personally invited me? Remember when you cheated on your other ex, who is my friend, and you got mad at me for saying you shouldn’t have? Remember all the times I kept my mouth shut while you treated all of your girlfriends like shit?
Well, fuck you. You’re a piece of shit. You will always be sad and lonely because you treat everyone who cares about you like shit. You treated me like shit. You freaked out because I hung out with your ex and our mutual friends, but while I was crying until I vomited every day about my break up, the only time you spoke to me was to bitch because I hadn’t told you. And then you came to town, and hung out with him, making no effort to contact me. You are the worst, most selfish person I’ve ever met. You are a bum. You’re 23 years old and you’re still partying with high school kids. You try to hook up with underage girls - even ones in relationships. Everyone thinks you’re a fucking joke. You used to be a really good person, but now you’re absolutely the worst person I know. Fuck you, Jesse.
“You know what, I’m going to take hormones, have surgery, lose ‘friends’ and ‘family’, increase my risk of homelessness, joblessness, physical and sexual violence, and spend thousands of hours and dollars navigating a hostile medical bureaucracy; because that way I’ll be able to finally infiltrate the super-secret radical feminist clubhouse and rape them all.
Oh, and as a nice side bonus maybe I’ll absorb some of their ‘feminine energy’ to use for my nefarious patriarchal plot for female subjugation.”—
Obviously, I mean if you’re going to rape cis women, putting yourself through hellish transition for years–having no idea if you’ll come out the other end alive or ever reach “the other end” at all, while losing everything you hold dear in the process–is the best way to do it. I mean, cis men are such amateurs. They go and rape people and get back to their cis male lives, free to live off the back of male privilege, zero social stigma, and greater economic stability. So lazy!
Yeah, there’s a thing about patriarchal myths. There’s a patriarchal myth that DMAB people are all sex-obsessed rapists. For het cis men, this is just laughed off, and is used to justify writing off rape of women by cis men as a consequence of just having a society (that is, it’s used to justify rape culture). DMAB trans folks who lack male privilege don’t have that; we have a patriarchal myth that we’re all rapists and that’s it.
Mythbusters seriously needs to do an episode to see if two people could actually fit on that goddamn door without flipping it or sinking it so that we can finally put this issue to bed after fifteen years.